“Not tonight, dear.” That’s the common way of expressing a low libido. Now there’s a clinical name for it: inhibited sexual desire ISD, which simply means sex does not turn you on.
How can you tell if ISD is serious? “Time is the key,” explains behavioral therapist Debora Phillips. If you haven’t been “in the mood” for a long time, she says, you may want to see a sex or marital therapist to help you deal with any underlying psychological problems that may be causing your problem. Short-term therapy is usually all it takes to restore arousal.
Most of the time though, ISD is a sudden situational event, which can be traced to one of the following causes.
- Emotional stress
- Marital conflicts
- Loss of love for your partner
- Illness or medications
- Drinking drugs
- Inadequate sexual stimulation
- Hormonal changes.
The good news is that a weak sex drive can usually be strengthened once these factors are resolved.
Before you rush off to have 50 copies of your resume typeset, take some time to clear your head and do some rational thinking, says Dr. Weinstein. “Evaluate the situation; think of what you could do differently at work, where you could expand.” He has some other tips you should consider before you decide to leave your job.
- Find new ways to contribute at work. What can you do to make your job more interesting?
- Ask for feedback from your boss and co-workers. You may be under-estimating how well others view your performance.
- Look into areas of possible future growth. Is there room for a possible promotion?
- Don’t neglect interests outside of work. Find activities that give you satisfaction and enjoyment.
- Lessen exposure to stressful aspects of the job by changing the format of your day. For example, if your job requires extensive phone work, set aside 2 hours of each day for paperwork to give yourself a breather.
- Schedule personal time. This could be one day a week or an hour a day to do with you as you please.
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“If we expand our awareness about eating, we can take care of 99% of digestive problems,” says Deepak Chopra, M.D., an endocrinologist in Stoneham, Massachusetts, and author ofCreating Health. Dr, Chopra recommends the following good eating policies.
- Whenever you’re going to eat or drink-even if it’s just a peanut or a swig of juice – put the food on a plate or the drink in a glass, take it to the table and sit down. Eating should be a conscious act, not just something you do every time you walk past the fridge.
- While you eat, turn off all distractions, both internal (worries) and external (radio,TV, books,magazines). You should enjoy the food.
- Give your complete attention to the food. Enjoy the taste, be aware of the aroma and all the flavors-sweet, sour, salty, bitter, astringent and pungent.
- Be aware of the speed of which you’re eating. If it’s hurried, slow down.
- Before you eat, ask yourself if you are hungry, on a scale of of 1 to 10. Many times, you eat you just because you see the food there or because the clock says it’s lunchtime-you’re just following some automatic cue. You eat and afterward you feel ill.
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